Dating with RU Girl

Star Sign Romantic Connections

Aries people need partners that help them keep their inner fire under control. This aggressive, impulsive personality grates at some people and enlivens others. The Ram delights in physical activity and is a passionate lover, but Aries’ selfish tendencies can often interfere with romantic prospects. Love is a give-and-take proposition, and much to Aries’ dismay, life isn’t always all about them. When there’s a dispute, Aries people like to clear the air. Their tempers can go off with the force of an atomic bomb, but once they’ve made their point, they forgive and forget with ease. Sometimes it’s hard to pin Aries people down long enough to make them listen to what you have to say. Even when they’re sitting still they will shake their legs or twiddle their thumbs. They’re always on the move, and they change hobbies and interests as often as they change their clothing. Their unpredictability is sometimes enough to make you want to pull your hair out! But there is one thing about them that you can depend on: life with an Aries person is never, ever dull or boring.

ARIES WITH ARIES
This couple must strive to stay focused on their priorities so they don’t start so many activities that it becomes impossible to follow through on any one of them. Also, because Aries likes to be the focus of attention, it will be a constant struggle for two of them to be considerate to one another. Each of the people in this pair must realize that romance requires all of us to be concerned with someone else besides ourselves. Give-and-take isn’t easy for Aries to achieve, but if they exercise maturity and are willing to work on the relationship, this pair can be successful. Around the house, it will be important for them to look to professionals (like accountants and housekeepers) when it comes to tending to details. Sexually, there will be a struggle for dominance, and this can be fun as long as both partners are willing to take turns being the one on top.

ARIES WITH TAURUS
This relationship could turn into a rather explosive power struggle if the partners don’t take a long time to understand one another’s needs. Aries will get very frustrated by the amount of time it takes Taurus to make a decision; Taurus will feel rushed by Aries’ need to stay in perpetual motion (especially when it’s much safer to stand still). To make this work, Aries needs to understand that Taurus will accept change – but only slowly, and only when Taurus sees a direct benefit in it. Taurus has to realize that Aries needs variety and lots of excitement to stay interested in the relationship. While Taurus responds to gifts like flowers, candy and back rubs, Aries likes to feel needed – especially in the physical sense. Taurus loves Aries’ creative approach to bedroom gymnastics, but to keep things even, Taurus will have to do a few cartwheels, too – preferably at the most surprising moments- to keep Aries’ attention.

ARIES WITH GEMINI
Motion and commotion will keep this easy-going relationship strong. Aries is a self-starter that wants to be the first one to try out new experiences, sometimes before they’re fully thought out. Gemini is a great thinker – so great, in fact, that it’s hard to get Gemini to DO something. Sounds potentially simpático, no? It could be. If this couple finds creative ways to spend lots of time together, they’ll have a solid union that’s based on a respectful friendship. Their possible pitfall is in having so much to do as individuals that they have to struggle to pencil one another into their respective schedules. Sexually, this relationship can be exciting as long as both people strive to provide both mental and physical stimulation. Gemini is into verbal foreplay, while Aries is very much a “Let’s Do It – NOW” kind of partner. If they can be aware of each another’s turn-ons, this pair has what it takes to hang in there for the long haul.

ARIES WITH CANCER
Both of these people are self-starters, and they tend to see household tasks like budgeting and decorating the same way. Both make quick decisions and need a lot of variety to keep the relationship interesting. Both also must be careful to consider the other’s sensibilities, though. If Aries can remember to tone down any aggressive, brusque talk, Cancer might not crab and complain so much (and avoid rousing Aries’ legendary temper). Although it might not seem like it at first glance, this couple could easily form a lasting relationship. Sexually, Cancer’s nurturing instinct is the ultimate turn-on for Aries’ “What about me?” attitude, while Aries’ childlike excitement and enthusiasm will make Cancer feel needed and loved. And with so much impulse combined into one partnership, ample portions of “kiss and make up” time could fill up their long, love-filled nights.

ARIES WITH LEO
Aries and Leo have a lot in common, in fact they might have so many of the same goals and desires that they find it hard to share – especially when it comes to the spotlight. Both of these fire sign people need plenty of attention, so although they will form a winning friendship, Aries and Leo will also compete in an endless battle for importance. Another problem could be the two signs’ different rates of decision-making. Aries moves too quickly while Leo moves too slowly. Aries will find it easier to get Leo to move on something if the change can be made to seem like it’s Leo’s idea. If the two are more mature (say, over 30), the relationship has a much better chance of working out. Sexually, this is a very exciting and fun-filled combination. They should keep a fire extinguisher on the night table!

ARIES WITH VIRGO
It’s hard for Aries and Virgo to see eye-to-eye. To Aries, action is the solution to most problems, while to Virgo everything must be analyzed and processed as much as humanly possible. Aries is likely to find Virgo excessively critical, while Virgo will think Aries is too impulsive. Despite these differences, Aries and Virgo can still fall in love. When they do, they each need to accept that the other can help them heal some of their all-too-human flaws. In romance, Aries will win Virgo with more conventional ways of courting a partner, while Virgo will have to be open to having a “wild” experience now and then to catch Aries’ eye. Virgo will happily take on Aries as a little project, and Aries will revel in Virgo’s pampering. Sexually, Virgo wants Aries to be more refined and Aries needs Virgo to be more spontaneous. If both are willing to go the extra mile, this combination could turn out to be a successful experiment in human evolution.

ARIES WITH LIBRA
This is the ultimate “Mars loves Venus” relationship. Aries needs Libra to supply a calming and soothing effect, while Libra needs Aries to put some raw energy into the idea of romance. These two opposing signs make the perfect long-term match because they complement one another so well. They bring out the best in each other while also giving one another character traits that round out their personalities. Also, when it comes to the little decisions that need to be made over the course of a lifetime, Aries and Libra see things the same way. They both like a lot of variety and they both thrive on making changes. In bed together, this couple can create electric energy. To keep the hearts and flowers flowing, Aries needs to remember that Libra needs words of praise, while Libra must show affection for Aries through sexual passion.

ARIES WITH SCORPIO
This match is exceedingly passionate, but probably not the easiest one to sustain over the long-term. Aries accomplishes goals through an innocent brand of drive and ambition, while Scorpio is less overt about showing aggression. Everything goes smoothly as long as the two are working together, but when this couple fights, things can get ugly. Scorpio might not seem phased by Aries’ shows of temper, but later, when Aries least expects it, Scorpio will strike. This relationship can easily become an emotional tug-of-war unless the two partners are very clear about the way they feel about one another and what they do as individuals. In bed, the struggle for supremacy continues. Both will use sex as a way to manipulate the other, but if the two partners can keep the competition friendly, the mutually exciting contest in seduction can lead to great heights of sexual pleasure.

ARIES WITH SAGITTARIUS
This couple, should they decide to live together, shouldn’t keep too much glass around the house! Although they get along like the best of friends, neither of them is known for being delicate or patient. Just like the fragile objects that can be shattered when they’re exposed to the brusqueness of both these signs, so can the feelings of these two partners be fractured by mutual lack of consideration. As long as they can sustain the foundation of their friendship – a mutual desire to explore new horizons – they will be very happy. There can be explosive fights between these two, but at least most of the conflict will be out in the open. Both partners need lots of space and friends outside the relationship. The most striking positive in this partnership is the sex – the intense fire they conjure up will keep warm feelings flowing between them for a long time.

ARIES WITH CAPRICORN
This can be a good combination as long as the pair can each identify their partner’s strengths and allow their mate to do what they do best. Capricorn brings discipline and order to Aries’ impulsive desire to drive on to the next big thing. Aries gives Capricorn new ideas and inspiration that makes life worth working hard for. If there is mutual respect between the people involved in this relationship, an ideal mixture of inspiration and organization can result. This means that Aries has to let Capricorn deal with the business aspects of the relationship while Capricorn has to relinquish control over the relationship long enough to listen to Aries’ new ideas. Both of these people are ambitious self-starters. As long as neither of them spends too much time at work or on outside projects, they can have a very happy and passionate relationship. Capricorn will surprise Aries with an appetite for sex that rivals Aries’ zest for sensual stimulation.

ARIES WITH AQUARIUS
Aries has to work hard to gain Aquarius’ respect. If there is a lot of exchange between the two partners, the relationship can work, but if both remain set in their ways, there could be a lot of fighting. Aries is dedicated to individual achievement, while Aquarius likes to be focused on the collective experience. Aries could grow impatient with Aquarius’ fixation on ideas, while Aquarius might find Aries’ desire for attention to be childish and selfish. The two can meet quite happily in bed, though. They both have a lot of energy and will enjoy spending many hours in competition. In this game, no matter who outlasts the other- they both win!

ARIES WITH PISCES
Although these two will have to work very hard at this relationship, it can turn out to be very rewarding. Aries’ way of taking the direct route to goals and aspirations will help Pisces stop being so timid. In turn, Pisces soft and gentle way of approaching life will help Aries to develop tact and decorum. The difficulties in this relationship could come from Aries’ ability to make Pisces curl up into the fetal position with one harsh word, or from Pisces’ unwillingness to make a move at crucial moments. Luckily for both these signs, they’re very forgiving, so they can easily make up for any of this little spats by reconciling in the bedroom. Their sex life will be exciting, especially if Pisces can persuade Aries to look at what lies deep within the sexual experience.

Put together a description that will attract your type

Writing personal ads should be considered an art in its own right. For decades personal ads have appeared in magazines and newspapers all over the world, and for decades people have struggled to describe themselves in 25 words or less. It is difficult, impossible really, to fully sum up one's essence in just a few lines, including likes, dislikes, interests and goals. These days the top quality dating sites offer more sophisticated personal ads, which are usually called profiles. Unlike the older personal ads in newspapers, modern profiles are detailed and in-depth and often help the user to build his or her description by taking a test or answering a series of questions. Even though describing yourself to a virtual stranger will always be difficult, making a free profile and getting yourself in the dating scene can be done if you follow our advice.

If you want to get the best of your personal ads membership, try to present the right image and get people to interact with you by chatting daily, make note of these 10 personal ad tips:

1. An obvious one - complete your personal ad profile fully. And accurately! There is nothing worse for a browsing member than spending their quality time opening your profile only to find your profile is full of Ask Me statements. So ... Be informative, be complete, be thorough, be interesting.
   
2. Add a photograph or two or even four! Amazingly, members with photos in their personal ads are likely to get up to 9 times more replies than members without any photo image attached to their profile. Okay, so even if we aren't all photogenic models, any photo is far better than none at all.
   
3. Don't be aggressive or rude in personal ads. It may be your sense of humor to be sarcastic or cutting, but it doesn't always come across best in anonymous text. Biting humor in the first instance will not usually attract the desired attention, even if it's meant to be amusing. That comes once you are chatting face to face.
   
4. You may have had a bad experience with a previous partner, but making a list of specific criteria a future partner must meet usually has the effect of making people look elsewhere. Even if they match! We all seek Mr. and Miss Right, but turning dating into a job interview removes every ounce of romance and passion from the occasion.
   
5. No matter how you speak in your day-to-day life, don't use swear or curse words in your profile, personal ad, conversations or emails! They are generally offensive and turn people off. Again, swearing is like sarcasm -- people may find your colorful language charming in face-to-face conversations, but without context your cursing may make you seem uneducated or angry.
   
6. Make your personal ad truthful above all things, but also emphasize your best characteristics. Admitting that you are a loner who has no friends will not win you many admirers, but emphasizing that you are a true individual will. Learning to sell yourself a bit without exaggerating is your best bet.
   
7. If you really feel passionate about something say so, don't try and hide the things that are important to you. If you love partying say so, if your religion is important to you, say so. Be yourself, and be upfront with who you are.
   
8. Do not pretend that you are willing to fly half way round the world to meet someone if you are not. It's not fair to anyone including you. If you are really only looking for someone in your state or close to home then stick with that and make it clear.
   
9. Always try and reply to people's messages and reply in a reasonable amount of time, not weeks later. If you are serious about dating, you are serious about replying to personal messages. Give people the ability to move on to other potential partners if you are not interested. Conversely, don't email someone weeks later and not expect that they haven't written you off!
   
10. Be positive! The more you project a friendly and positive attitude, the more likely people are going to be attracted to you. Smile in your photo and be inviting in your chats and comments. People who seem bitter, negative or conceited push others away -- people on dating websites are often sensitive to rejection, so who would want to take a chance getting to know someone who may end up being cruel or mean?
    

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Use the stars to guide your dating and love life!

Some say regardless of our actions or desires, love and romance are either fated to blossom or doomed to failure by forces beyond our control. Astrologists study planetary alignments believing that this celestial activity dictates the type of characteristics and personality traits we display everyday, and how they impact our interactions with others. Could the answer to your relationship questions lie in the stars? Even if you’re not in the habit of checking your horoscope daily, our Star Sign Compatibility dating charts are food for thought.

What are you like in a relationship? Ever wonder why you seem to be attracted to the same type of person over and over? Which personality type is your best fit for an enduring relationship? What type of traits do you have that could come between you and a potential partner? Each astrological sign has a strong counterpart which, when paired, usually creates a successful couple. Find your zodiac sign below and learn which astrological signs you are most compatible with, and those with whom the stars say you just don’t mix.

• Aries (March 21 – April 20): The strong and energetic Aries can be passionate or temperamental.
  
• Taurus (April 21 – May 22): As symbolized by the bull, the Taurus man or woman is tenacious, but can become stubborn.
  
• Gemini (May 22 – June 23): The Gemini’s split nature can mean balance or opposing sides to his or her personality.
  
• Cancer (June 23 – July 23): Loving Cancer’s protective nature can sometimes smother others.
  
• Leo (July 23 – August 23): The exuberant Leo loves to be the center of attention.
  
• Virgo (August 23 – September 23): Easygoing Virgo is usually practical and a perfectionist in everyday affairs.
  
• Libra (September 23 – October 23): The balanced Libra believes deeply in beauty, harmony, and fairness.
  
• Scorpio (October 24 – November 22): The passionate Scorpio can be both detached and possessive in any relationship.
  
• Sagittarius (November 23 – December 21): Those born under this fire sign are generally optimistic yet restless.
  
• Capricorn (December 22 – January 20): Goal-oriented Capricorns are dependable in relationships.
  
• Aquarius (January 20 – February 19): This water sign marks inventive and original thinkers.
  
• Pisces (February 20 – March 21): Pisces are compassionate and emotional, and can be impractical at times.
  

How to earn her forgiveness, no matter what you've done

We all make mistakes. We forget birthdays. We have a few too many beers with the guys and throw up in a hamper. Some of us might even -- on occasion -- check out other girls. (The nerve! Who would do such a thing?!)

Keystone Light recognized this and even has an ad campaign dedicated to male slip ups. Friends, that is why the make-up exists. Here are a few handy do's and don'ts to get you back in your lady's good graces.

Do:

• Order or pick up flowers. This CANNOT be too over the top. If you get a single rose, you had better have a smooth line like, "A single rose for my one and only girl." Otherwise, the bigger the better.
  
• Apologize. Be specific. Not just, "Sorry about the other night." Acknowledge exactly what you did that was wrong and repent for your sins. Beg, if you need to.
  
• Put a little extra effort into the next date. If you do dinner and a movie every Friday, moving it to Thursday isn't exactly going to wow her. Something girly is in line. Go to a paint-your-own-pottery store and make mugs for each other. Is it lame? Yes. Will it earn you forgiveness? And then some.

• Promise to never do it again, unless she demands it. We all know you'll pass out naked on the front lawn again. Don't kid yourself or your lady.
  
• Expect make-up sex, or even a hug. Take what you can get -- and be happy she didn't throw a vase at you.
  
• Blame it on the beer, her hot friend, a dare from your buddy or anything else. Take responsibility like a man. It's manly. And girls dig manliness.

A savvy boyfriend would never ask us to make him a sandwich while he plays armchair quarterback.

What to say to win over your love interests

The conventional online dating wisdom for profiles is to be yourself, use pictures that aren't from 5 years back when you looked like a totally different person and describe who you are openly and honestly. But everything your grandma told you is B.S., according to a new online dating study by OkCupid’s OkTrends blog, which found that there are a few key things you can do to up the number of cheesy "They're Interested!" emails flooding your inbox.

• No LOLspeak -- Act like you graduated high school for 5 seconds and purge your profile of references to "u," "yer" and other phrases that indicate you spend all day surfing sites written for 13-year-olds. Also, egregious spelling errors are right out.
  
• No Compliments -- Or at least no praising physical attributes right off the bat. It gives the impression you're only looking for one thing. Try commending a quick wit or an impressive accomplishment first.
  
• Be Quirky -- There are literally millions of singles online, and you should pretend like every one of them is interested in the same person you are. Originality, even in something as simple as a greeting, gets you remembered.
  
• Slow Down -- Make it clear that you're comfortable chatting via the anonymous dating site for awhile before begging for a first meeting. People who seem like they're jumping the gun get major points off.
  
• Cite Specific Interests and Hobbies -- Again, originality (even bordering on weirdness) is key. Talk about you obsession with Shark Week, debate the merits of different brands of hand sanitizer or tell that one story that always clears the room. You'll definitely stand out, and maybe you'll find someone who knows more about the elasmobranch than you do!
  

Photos are a key part of attracting any potential partner through a dating website. We all like to think that a photo isn’t necessary when looking at personal profiles but the saying “a picture is worth a thousand words’ definitely applies here. A profile without a photo will never get any interest. Imagine if you were looking to buy a new car. You wouldn’t even consider viewing it unless it had a picture would you? Well the same applies to dating profiles. A picture is a must if you are going to make the most of your membership to any dating website.

At a first meeting with someone, you will instinctively look at their face first and store millions of separate pieces of information about that person. Hair colour/ length, lips, eyes, mouth, height, skin colour all get instantly stored. Exactly the same thing happens when someone views your dating profile picture.

It is therefore essential to make sure you use not only a good photo of yourself but an excellent one that shows if possible your whole body or at least from the waist up. We have all seen those carefully cropped bust and face shots and so are all now very sceptical when we see these appear.

So why do some people not use and image on their profile? Well there are probably several reasons. Embarrassment, fear of rejection, laziness, or quite simply they have not told the whole truth in their description of themselves all spring to mind. Quite rightly, people are very wary of a profile with no picture, and so if you do not include a picture, don’t expect any interest.

It is very easy to get a picture of yourself for a profile. Most laptop computers with a built in webcam, have the option to take a snapshot picture and make it very easy for the user to pose for the photograph. Another easy alternative is to use a digital camera with a self timer setting or ask a close friend to assist you. A slightly more expensive option, but the one with maybe slightly better results is to have a professional take some shots of you in a studio setting.

The main problem could be that the images are not a true likeness of yourself on a day to day basis, and while they may hook a prospective date, they will lead to instant disappointment at first meeting.

Go on, give it a try. Get yourself a picture uploaded and sit back and watch the messages come flooding in!

Dating success could be just one click away!

Below are some of the best tips and advice to improve your online dating experience!

Take It Easy
If its your first time using online dating websites then make sure you pick a reputable one that you may have heard of. When you sign up don’t use your full name - its better to use an anonymous name for your own safety. This may be an opportunity to come up with something funny, cheeky or flirty as a username that might catch someone’s eye!

Research
Have a look around the site, learn about the different features of the site that allow you to search in different ways and contact people. Once you’ve got the hang of the site then you can start searching through your potential dates.

Trust Your Instincts

First impressions count so it makes sense to put the maximum amount of effort into getting your dating profile right. This is your advert to sell you! You are potentially up against hundreds of other profiles that someone might actively consider talking to so make yourself stand out from the crowd.

When you are writing an online dating profile then it is important that it comes across as natural and honest. Remember you are selling yourself so make sure you write good things about yourself and your character. You will be asked the usual facts such as Location, Occupation, Age, Ethnicity, Body Type, Height, Hair Color and Eye Color. You are also likely to be asked to write a paragraph about yourself to give your prospective date more of an idea about you.

You don’t have to tell them absolutely everything about yourself so only put down what you are comfortable telling people at this stage. Generally the more information you write about yourself the more interest someone will take in your dating profile.

Photos are also very important part of dating profiles on online dating websites. The response to your online dating profile will be much higher with a photo than without. Many people will not even consider looking at a dating profile without a photo or interacting on a dating website with a person who they cannot see what they look like. Some people do not like putting a profile picture as they prefer anonymity in the early stages and this is understandable.

However, you will be making it much harder for yourself to meet people without a dating profile photo so you will need to make your profile very special to grab attention against all the other profiles that do have photos. There are some more dating profile writing tips to help you do this below.

The tone in an online dating profile is also important so try and come across with some integrity and some depth. Witty comments and humorous anecdotes will help grab the attention of anyone reading your dating profile. Remember online dating is meant to be fun so don’t make yourself sound too serious but don’t sound frivolous either. At the end of the day you are trying to get across the essence of what you are about in a one page dating profile which isn’t always easy so promote the best bits about you!

A major part of writing an online dating profile is to outline the kind of person you are looking to date. You might write something like “I would like to meet someone who is outgoing, sporty and enjoys the outdoors.” If you are strictly looking to meet someone who is minimum height or certain hair colour then you might as well say so but in the knowledge you restricting the number of possible dating partners.

It’s a good idea to give the reader of your dating profile a sense of your aspirations, what makes you tick, things that may annoy you and what makes you laugh. This will help people understand a more about you too from your online dating profile. When it comes to writing your online profile it is important to use the appropriate language so don’t use crude or sexual language. Leave your past out of your profile as you are trying to find a date for your future. Leave the past where it belongs.

If you take on board some of the online dating tips above then you have a great chance of writing a great online dating profile. The above tips are generic dating advice that will give you some guidance but the most important dating tip we can give you it to be yourself. Be natural, you ideal partner needs to be attracted to the real you before they meet you. Make sure your profile sells the real you and the rest will take care of itself. Best of luck with writing your online dating profile!

The first decision to make is which dating site (or sites) you are going join, if type ‘Dating’ into a search engine you will find hundreds of sites listed. If you are looking for something specific like someone older, with a certain hobby, level of intellect, a particular ethnicity or religion you will find sites to cater for your preference and more.

If you are open to the kind of person you would like to meet then one of the more well known sites are a good idea as they have the largest number of members giving you more choice. There is nothing stopping you from joining a number of sites, some of them are free and some charge a subscription.

All of the sites have a template for your profile, make sure you fill out all the information that you can. If you leave bits out you will seem either lazy or secretive and remember this is your opportunity to persuade people to contact you. Make sure the photo’s you add are the best you’ve got but make sure they are recent and a good representation of you. We all change physically over time and it is only fair to show an accurate representation of yourself. If you are smiling in your picture you will appear more friendly and approachable.

These tips should help:

• Statistics show the more photo’s you add the more likely you are to get contacted.
• By all means show your sense of humour but remember sarcasm and dry wit don’t always translate well when written down.
• Do not use swear words or slang, text abbreviations look lazy too.
• Be honest, internet dating sites have a bad reputation for people telling porky pies – big or little. Be accurate about your height and build, things like this shouldn’t matter but being misleading does!
  
• Be realistic about how far you would travel to meet someone and put this in your profile to avoid giving anyone false hope.
  
• If you feel strongly about something like politics or religion and want someone who’s views match or at least empathise with yours then say so.
  
• Look at as many dating profiles as possible, be brave and message all the people you are curious about. Make your first message a polite light hearted introduction.
  
• Message through the secure messaging services that are supplied online, only swap your personal details when you feel completely comfortable and are willing to meet in person.
  
• Always reply to everyone who messages you within a reasonable time frame. Even if this is to say you’re not interested (in the politest way possible!)
  
• Have patience and persistence – it may take a while to find someone you want to date.
  
• Keep an optimistic outlook, this will shine through to people both on the internet and face to face.

Kissing is not a science, but there sure is a way of doing it. If you and your partner are beginning to explore each other’s sexuality for the first time, the first kisses may look awkward. But with these simple tips, you can give your partner mind-blowing French kisses in no time.

Start with a few pecks – Begin your kissing session with soft kisses on the cheek, neck, lips, even on the eyelids, where there are sensitive spots. Slowly build it up until both of you are ready for a more intimate, open-mouth kiss.

Use the tongue – In a French kiss, both people use their tongues. How you use your tongue is entirely up to you, but it requires a certain amount of skill. Don’t just stick your tongue and do nothing. Use your tongue to gently explore your partner’s mouth and play with his tongue as well. If you think you have a long tongue, why not try using it to tickle your partner’s palette (the roof of his or her mouth)?

Take short breaks – Let go of your kiss (but not too far from your partner’s face) for a few seconds to come up for air and swallow your own saliva.

Avoid clanking each other’s teeth – Teeth clanking happens most often when both of you fail to tilt your heads slightly to one side, or when your mouth are a little too open. If this happens, just laugh it off and start all over. In time, you will figure out how to avoid hitting your partner’s teeth.

Do not bite the tongue – Not only does it hurt, it would probably end your kissing session. If you feel like nibbling, you should do it at your partner’s lower lip, but not too hard. Conversely, if your partner bites your tongue and it hurts, tell him or her that it does not feel good.

Just enjoy your kiss – Kissing should be enjoyable for both people involved. Ask your partner gently what he or she likes in the way you kiss, and tell your partner what you want from him or her as well. Remember, the more you kiss, the better you get at it.

Meeting with someone through the Net can be exciting, yet at the same time dangerous. Although you get to meet different people from different places, the Internet is not enough to create trust towards another person. Before you venture into this activity, please be cautious and read our tips.

Don't give out personal information – This includes your last name, home or work address, phone numbers, bank account data, and other sensitive details. Sometimes, scammers who steal other people's bank savings may disguise themselves into singles looking for love through the Internet.

Don't afraid to ask – On the Internet, people can pretend to be someone else. It's not easy to determine if someone is being honest since you have no visual, vocal, or body language to analyze, even if you have webcams and voice chats. It is okay to ask the other person for proof of important matters like job status, educational degrees, and others.

Do not use your phone to call – Heaing your date's voice erases a level of anonymity. However, it is best not to use your own phone when calling. Use a payphone instead to avoid problems with caller ID. If you and your date have a voice chat program in your computer (such as Skype or Yahoo! Messenger with Voice), you can talk to your date for free.

Listen and analyze your date's voice – It is best to talk with the person either through online or phone several times before meeting face-to-face. You can learn a lot about someone's personality by hearing his or her voice and how they talk. Be cautious if you feel that the other person is trying to manipulate you or making up answers just to please you. Also, watch out for signs of anger and frustration while getting to know them over the Net.

Never meet the person alone – It is best to meet the other person on a public place. Never go overseas just to meet this other person (unless you deeply trust him or her). You can bring along a friend, or tell a friend about your date beforehand.

Lacking hair doesn't have to damage your dating life

I am tired of hearing women saying "He is bald" as if he was ill or rude. Being bald is like growing older and getting wrinkles. It's natural. If a woman is obsessed with dating men with full heads of hair, then she could be classed as extremely shallow and overly obsessed with youth. Of course her current hairy beau could end up bald later on, so she may want to rethink her position. If a man said that he wouldn't date half the female population because their breasts were too small, he would be labeled a chauvinist fool. Yet I constantly hear women express their interest that "my man must have a full head of thick shiny locks." It is as if a sign of social success is to date the man with the most hair.

Interestingly a man with a purposely shaved head doesn't count. He has the ability to grow hair but he has chosen to have a shaved head due to fashion. Maybe he is a member of the armed forces and it's expected of him. Maybe he is P. Diddy. Either way, many women appear not to want to date men who don't have the potential for a full head of hair. It's part of natural attraction and therefore a major part of dating.

A woman I know once said about her prospective date; "Oh no, he won't do at all. He has no hair. I want a man with a full head of hair like my daddy had!" Another girl friend said to me; "I adore men with shaved heads, bald men are so masculine and sexy. They remind me of Bruce Willis." So my initial impression here is that it's down to personal taste.

Dating is initially based on physical attraction and subconsciously we are seeking a healthy mate to procreate with. A lack of hair is tied in with age and maturity, but for some reason half of women view a lack of hair as unhealthy. I know a great many women who will not date balding men at all. I was even watching an episode of Sex and the City the other evening when one of the characters said she wouldn't consider a man walking by because he was losing his hair. It is as if he had some infectious disease.

Strangely, the cult of hair seems most prevalent in the US, which is partly due to genes. With the heavy influence of Eastern European males through successive American generations, one finds a society where balding men aren't quite as prevalent as in other countries. In Scandinavia, the UK and Western Europe for example, hair loss appears to be far more common and is therefore far more accepted. To make my very unscientific point, I was once drinking in a bar in Anchorage where I was the only man in a packed bar who had no hair! In Europe this would be unthinkable.

The first thing we need to spell out here is that having a bald head has nothing to do with poor health. It is generally a process of age. It is the same as a woman's breasts sagging, or eye getting wrinkles around then. Being bald is a gradual process that appears to affect different men at different ages. I think the reason why women are so affected by the image of a bald head is because of the media and Hollywood. The leading man has always been portrayed in western cinema as a man with a full head of hair. Hair is also the natural domain of youth. Therefore inevitably women grow up expecting their men to have a full head of locks just like a Rolling Stone, David Bowie or Clint Eastwood. Subconsciously they want their children to have full heads of hair too.

There are rare exceptions. Sting has been losing his hair for years but is seen as very sexy. Nicholas Cage appears to be losing his hair but this doesn't affect his attraction. Sean Connery has lit the fires of generations of women and is probably the sexiest bald man alive. So maybe hair has nothing to do with it. Maybe it is the whole package, the overall attractiveness of the person concerned. Success and confidence levels certainly assist any man, whatever his hair length and this should be taken into consideration.

The issue for bald men then is confidence when dating. If you are losing your hair gradually then the best thing one can do is never cover it up. The sweep-over hair styles of yesterday have long since gone and any man with a lack of thick hair should take a long hard look at Bruce Willis and get to the barbers for a shave. A man has to learn to live with not having lots of hair, which doesn't happen in an instant. It is one thing to have one's head shaved on purpose, another to have ones hair thinning by the month.

My own advice is to take the bull by the horns and accept that not all women will love you as a bald man, but then they may not have gelled with you anyway, so who cares? If a woman judges you by your hair she is probably not worth knowing in the first place. And if you are a woman, imagine someone judging you by the size of your thighs. Instead guys, remember that around half the female population will love you for your looks and see a shaved head as very masculine, virile or unimportant in the overall equation.

My advice is to join the shaven-headed generation and give yourself some confidence and panache by dressing well, looking good and getting your nicely buffed head a tan. Be cool, be sophisticated and learn to go for the ladies who love your style. Don't aim for the ones who want a surrogate luscious-locked salon owner. I'd have rather been Yul Brinner than Casy Kasem any day.

How to make your Internet-based relationship work in the real world

At Top Dating Tips, we are here to help you be successful in dating and meeting new friends. It's what we do best. We want to take this opportunity to provide you with some hints and tips on helping you date safely, and successfully find that special person. You may wish to make and meet a new friend. Your main interest may be in dating online or dating in person, you may wish to find love and romance, perhaps the person you dream of marrying. It could be that you wish to travel or play sport or an activity and need a companion or other activity partner to come along.

The key to meeting new friends is to have fun, relax and enjoy. Find a dating site environment in which you can do these things safely and without any pressure. If you decide to meet someone there or in the outside world, then we feel there are some basic ideas you should follow for your personal comfort.

Okay, so what can you do to help yourself?
First you need to get replies to your emails and messages. Here are some tips you may find helpful:

• Think about how your profile is written. Ensure there are NO spelling mistakes in your profile or your emails and messages.
  
• Keep your description short but be completely honest. If you are not being truthful then when you meet, you will be discovered, if not before.
  
• Add fun and humor to your profile, and don't be too serious at first.
  
• Don't be afraid to state who you wish to meet and why. Most adults know the kind of person they are attracted to, even if they are not sure why.
  
• Tell people what you like and perhaps things you don't. Don't be offensive though.
  
• Change and edit your profile occasionally to keep it fresh, and try to be original.
  
• Add a photo to your profile. We find that a member with a photo can get anything up to 9 times the amount of replies, in comparison with those that do not include one.
  
• Be polite with messaging, and don’t make judgments about the length of time to get a reply.
  
• Please don’t feel you need to block someone just because they are too busy to chat this time. Be cool.
  
• Keep your first email short and to the point, perhaps humorous and interesting. Don't include too much detail at this point, and just a few things that you have in common. Make the email talkative and allow it to flow. Don't be too serious at this stage or too emotional.
  
• Do NOT include you personal details in an introduction email. Leave that until a relationship is established, and you feel very comfortable with the other person.
  
• Try and contact a few people at the same time, but always those who you have matched, not those who you have nothing in common with as they will not welcome your contact.
  
• Be honest and stick to the truth. It is all too easy to add things that at this stage are not checkable. However, you may get caught out later and ruin a fantastic friendship or romance.
  
• Always reply quite quickly to any messages.
  
• Don't talk about money or possessions at this time. Most people like or love someone for who they are, not what they have. We assume you do not want to find someone who simply wants you for what you can provide.
  
• Do not apply any form of pressure in an email, whether it be for a reply or a meeting. Do not be critical of their profile or photo. This will create a negative response.
  

• Do you feel you know the person well?
  
• Have they answered all your questions?
  
• Are they patient, good humored and fun?
  
• Do you trust them?
  
• Have they applied any pressure on you?
  
• Do you know what they do for a living, and the area they live in?
  
• Do you know about their background and family?
  
• Have you seen their photo and have you more than one photo of them in different situations?
  
• Have you spoken on the phone?
  
• Are you sure they have described themselves truthfully?
  

• Tell a person close to you about the meeting. Tell them where you are going, when you are meeting them, where the meeting will take place, what time you will be returning. Give a person close to you as much information as you can. If you have a mobile phone or are close to a pay phone then perhaps call to say you are fine and that everything is great.
  
• Agree to meet in a public place first. Perhaps a restaurant or bar or somewhere where there are plenty of other people. Agree to meet somewhere that you know, in familiar surroundings where you can relax and enjoy the meeting. You could arrange to have other friends in the same place but at a distance, so you feel more relaxed.
  
• Do not agree to be collected from work or home, and make your own way there and home on the first occasion. Perhaps get a friend to take you there and collect you afterwards.
  
• Restrict the time of the first meeting. Perhaps a lunch hour or a short time after work. This is useful if you decide that the situation is not favorable and you need to leave.
  
• If at any point you wish to leave then do so. Do not feel obliged to stay and find yourself feeling awkward. If you do not feel relaxed then you will not enjoy the date. You owe it to yourself to feel happy and relaxed, and it is possible that it may take a few meetings with different people before you find that special person.

• ALWAYS stay in a hotel you have arranged yourself, and never stay at their accommodation, however generous. This will allow you both to feel less pressure, to relax into the situation and find some common ground. You may have both made promises in mail or on the phone that may be harder to keep once a meeting has occurred. If possible, arrange the hotel in a secure area of the city you are visiting, and arrange the hotel yourself. It's always easier to escape a date that's not going well, when not staying with them.
  
• Provide the details of your hotel and travel arrangements to a best friend at home, and make an arrangement to contact them when you arrive, after you have met your new friend and when you are returning. Take a mobile phone if possible and keep in contact.
  
• Always be cautious if in any doubt, and never be uncomfortable about changing your mind and returning home at any time should the situation cause you any concern.

How to make a good impression without breaking the bank

The first date is not just about restaurants and movies. Here are some great first date ideas starting with the very cheap, more expensive to the extravagant:

1. 1. Beach - Take a picnic, a bottle of wine and a rug, and spend the day catching the sun together. Or, you could take a dip together - all that splashing about is bound to be great fun.
2. Picnic by a river - Prepare a basket of goodies, a chilled bottle of wine and enjoy the day relaxing in each other's company.
3. The movies - Let your date choose the film. It will show good gesture if you don’t have the same taste in films.
4. Theme Park - Big or small, everybody loves theme parks. Triple loop roller coasters, dodgems, candy floss - the ideal date for the big kid in us.
5. Eat in - Show off your culinary skills and ask them round for dinner. Don’t overdo the candles and music, or you may frighten them away.
6. Indoor ice skating, or rollerblading in the park - You can lean against each other for balance and warmth.
7. A sporting activity that you both like.
8. Kite flying - My partner and I did this a few year back. It wasn’t our first date, but it was one of the best days we have ever spent together.
9. A trip to the zoo - Everyone likes animals so a trip to the zoo makes for a perfect date.
10. Local museum or art gallery - This is only a good idea if you are both interested in museums.

1. Go to a concert - Take them to see their favorite band in concert and dance the night away.
   
2. Go for an expensive meal - Have her serenaded by one of the waiters with a bottle of champagne and a dozen red roses.
   
3. Go horseback riding - Take a trip to the nearest horse farm. Spend the afternoon horse riding and stopping to take in the scenery, and afternoon lunch in a local inn.
   
4. Candlelit dinner for two aboard a yacht - Take her out to sea. Put on the full works - captain sailing, champagne on ice and lobsters for dinner.
   
5. Take in a show - Get dressed up for the evening and go along to watch one of your favorite shows at a theater house. Or go to a premier of a big block buster movie.
   
6. Horse drawn carriage at night - Take a trip around the city and through the park, on a horse drawn carriage. Have it take you to a swanky restaurant and wait while you dine.
   
7. Under the sea - Go scuba diving.
   
8. Take to the sky - Go for a trip in a hot air balloon.
   
9. A trip to New York for the afternoon - Fly her to New York and back in an afternoon. This is the ultimate first date destination (especially if it is her first time there).
   
10. On top of the world - Prepare a basket of caviar, prawn cocktail, strawberries and cream, and champagne on ice, and take to the skies. Well, the top of the highest building you can get to.

1. Fly her to Paris and back - Take in all the sights that Paris has to offer. Finish the date with an expensive meal in one of the swanky restaurants in Paris.
   
2. Helicopter ride - Go for a flight over the city in a helicopter.
   
3. We're in the money - Dress up to the nines and go blow a fortune in a top casino.
   
4. Parachute jump - Take to the sky for the high of a lifetime. This one cannot be a surprise date, unless you are sure it is what they want!
   
5. Climb to the top of the world - Go mounting climbing on a clear summer's day. Don't forget the flag for when you reach the top.
   
6. Go swimming with dolphins - This has to be the ultimate experience of a lifetime and if you aim to impress, this is the way to do it.
   
7. Para-gliding - Take to the sea, have lunch, then the skies the limit.
   
8. Eating in - Hire a top chef and waiting staff, and have them round to your place for a meal they won’t forget.
   

When Mr. Nice loses out to Mr. Naughty in the dating game

The Do's and Dont's of dating for the modern female

Guys: If you don't like this, look away now.

In another dating article on this site, you will find a general set of rules than men should follow when dating. In the same way, women have some general rules that they should contend with when entering the dating jungle. Now I know everyone is different, so don't take things too seriously here. There has been some controversy over some literature published in the USA that lays out in detail the rules a woman should follow to get her guy (or gal). Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider's 1995 bestseller "The Rules," explains how women should play hard if they want to get their guy. I can understand why some groups would be hostile about this, but the fact is that when we grow up, there are a predefined set of dating rules. What happens is that we forget most of them after the age of 21, and then realize we need to relearn them.

I wish there weren't any general rules, but courtship is a ritual. There are things that we make happen that excite, stimulate, create interest and confound. Dating is a long test of compatibility. Are we perfectly matched? If we just threw ourselves together, then the chances of long term happiness might be compromised. And yet previous generations managed to succeed on a far less complex courtship criteria list. Many arranged marriages work all too interestingly.

In every society there are a predefined set of social rules we follow, from the way and timing of eating to the way we behave in public. The issue here is that when women date, there are some things that can help them be more successful. If we accept that dating is a game, then there are rules to that game. There are winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance, it gives you a head start. If men know the rules by which you are playing, you may change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing. Men love a challenge, so feel free to adapt rules and add them as you feel inclined.

You can separate rules out into two parts, dating and online dating. Both areas have distinct rules that a woman should follow for dating success.

General Dating Rules

• Always look great, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick with rags will still turn his head. You have the advantage. You are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time.
  
• Never reveal information you don't have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.
  
• Keep dates brief, but your men interested. Less is always more.
  
• Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr. Right loves your body as much as your mind.
  
• Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.
  
• Ensure you receive flowers. If he doesn't know what a florist is, dump him.
  
• Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
  
• Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady's perogative.
  
• Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
  
• If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.
  
• Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.
  
• Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
  
• Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practice on a mirror if you have to.
  
• Never ever talk about previous boyfriends, particularly their prowess in the bedroom. Your ex-boyfriends are your business only.
  
• Never assume anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.
  
• If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity, run like the wind. Life is too short for boys.
  
• If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.
  
• Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.
  
• Never ever come across as too available or too desperate. He will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing.
  
• If the guy in the corner is gorgeous, go get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.
  
• You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
  
• If you want a child, don't mention it on the first few dates.
  
• Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.

• Always let them come to you, don't chase them via email.
  
• Block anyone who annoys you instantly.
  
• Post the best and most vampish photo you can find.
  
• Don't reply to instant messages with clever opening lines.
  
• Remain aloof and let yourself be chased.
  
• Always reply to emails at least 3 days after receipt.
  
• Never provide your real email or phone details.
  
• Always date safely and protect yourself at every turn.
  
• Make sure your login name is stunning and sexy, as well as enigmatic.
  
• Do not login for hours on end. Short, rapid visits are best.
  
• Do not assume the person you are talking to is destitute or sad.
  
• Never ever reply to emails on weekends. Wait until a weekday.
  
• Never state how good your sexual performance is in your profile.
  
• If you don't want to date married men, spell it out in your profile.
  
• A man who doesn't reply to your email within 3 days should be ignored.
  
• Make sure your humor levels come across in text.
  
• Do not chat to hundreds of men at once. The delay in replying is a dead giveaway and your Mr. Right will be off.
  
• Don't even think about misrepresenting your size or description. They will find out.
  
• Come across as cool and sophisticated for best results

Tips to make your first date go smoothly

First dates can be nerve wracking, and they often render even the most experienced of daters shy, silent and prone to making awkward and embarrassing mistakes that blow the chances of getting a second date even before the initial meeting is over. Here are some pointers to help you put your most attractive foot forward and make a good impression.

Do's

1. Do be on time. The last thing you want to do is make a bad impression on your date by being late. Tardiness implies that you don't care. Even worse, the person you're meeting may not hang around to wait for you to turn up.
2. Do make your partner feel comfortable. We're all a bit on edge during a first date with someone. Trying to put your partner at ease and get him or her to relax will also help you stay calm and enjoy yourself.
3. Do be an interesting date. The worst thing you can do is show up for a date with someone and then sit there all night and talk about nothing -- or, even worse, stay so silent that they might as well have eaten dinner alone. Don't make yourself easy to forget.
4. Do laugh at their jokes. Even if you've heard the joke 100 times or more (or it just isn't funny at all), laughing along with your date will communicate that you are interested in them.
5. Do keep the conversation alive. That dreaded silence, during which you're both scrambling to come up with something -- anything -- to say, can seem to last for eternity and will make both of you think the other person is boring. Jot down a few questions ahead of time. Practicing for the date can make all the difference.
6. Do take an interest in your date. Listen when he or she is talking. Be interested in what they have to say, and show how interested you are by asking questions about what they like to do, read, eat for dinner, etc.
7. Do go somewhere unique. First dates don't have to be to the movies or to a restaurant for a nice meal. You will make a longer, lasting impression if you get creative.
8. Do be confident. Confidence says a lot about a person. Being more confident will help you get through that first date with ease and let your partner know you're comfortable with who you are.
9. Do be yourself. You won't fool anyone by pretending to be someone you're not. Also, if you're planning to continue seeing this person, the real you will come out eventually, so you might as well start off by introducing them to who you really are, flaws and all.
10. Do stay safe. Take your cell phone with you, plan to drive yourself and let a friend know where you're going, who you'll be with and when you'll be back.

1. Don't be late. First impressions count, and if you're late, this will make your date think you're lazy and didn't care enough to plan ahead.
2. Don't talk about yourself all night. There is nothing worse then a person that loves to talk about herself all the time. How vain can you get?
3. Don't talk about past relationships. Maybe that's how you lost the last one. Nobody wants to hear you drone on about your ex and what she did or didn't do. Concentrate on this new person, and see if you can get to the second date.
4. Don't eat with your mouth open. It's gross. Your date is there to see you, not your food.
5. Don't bombard your date with extremely personal questions. Like you, they probably don't want to reveal too much about themselves just yet. If you like each other and want to continue the relationship after this first meeting, there will be plenty of time to ask questions and delve deeper.
6. Don't try to be someone you're not. So he likes dogs, but you're a cat person. Pretending otherwise will only make the other person feel deceived and turned off when they discover the truth. Find someone who wants you for you, not for who you're pretending to be.
7. Don't forget to thank the other person for the date. This is not only good manners but also gives you a chance to end it, if you're not interested -- or to ask them out on another date, if you are.
8. Don't propose marriage or kids, unless you never want to see that person again.
9. Don't pursue sex after your partner has said no. Period. It's tacky, and it proves you're a jerk.
10. Don't get drunk! As much as drinking copious of alcohol to calm your nerves sounds like a good idea, think about how bad you're going to feel if you miss most of your date because you're in the bathroom revisiting your meal. Additionally, this kind of behavior will show your love interest that you can't control yourself and don’t know your limits. It also isn't safe -- getting drunk and lowering your inhibitions is likely to put you at risk of unwanted advances, and you won't be in the right frame of mind or body to do anything about them.

What's most important to us in choosing a love interest

Dating can be as tricky a business as can trying to find a date. When we begin dating, we often forget to consider what we are looking for in others we would like to meet. We set off with a definite view of the perfect dating partner. The moment we are introduced to someone, or view some photos of profiles or personal ads online – we forget everything! Why is this? Because we are swayed by many factors, in other words, we are not as set in our ways as much as we like to think we are.

Beauty, of course, often holds sway. However much we like to say we are not, there are few of us who wouldn’t date someone attractive. It is in our blood and we would usually say yes to an attractive person. Beauty tends to rub off on those around it, so if we associate ourselves with what we consider are good looks we immediately feel good about ourselves also. Most of us are not models and therefore we tend not to meet those who are but we notice it in the things around us. If you can appreciate something beautiful, then you can also appreciate someone beautiful. To ignore it is a lie.

However, if we simply lived and dated by beauty alone we would be too shallow to succeed in any real sense. We would have 2 dimensional personalities and be uninteresting in any meaningful way. It is often leveled as a criticism in attractive people that they don’t have very strong personalities because they have traded on their looks for too long. Conversely, a conventionally unattractive person can often have a strong and interesting personality to make up for the lack of attractiveness in a physical sense. So it’s clear that as an isolating factor beauty (or more specifically, physical attraction) is to some extent important but it is not the only important thing when dating others.

We look for humor in a person because we want them to feel good by being with us and we want them to feel good about themselves in their decisions. We also want ourselves to feel good and to relax and have fun and a great time. Therefore when we date someone, humor is a must if we are going to ever reach a level of relaxation in the company of that person. Laughter and humor is about creating a mental connection and understanding about the world around us. It is a demonstration of a commonly accepted set of beliefs between us and it allows a demonstration of a level of understanding quickly not known in almost any other form.

When dating others, we look for eye contact upon meeting because it is the most direct sense of understanding and truth and honesty. We almost always look at each other’s eyes first when we meet as this is where we first find attraction. It is beyond me here to explain why that may be but I do like the expression that our eyes are the gateway to the soul. I tend to agree. The smallest change in the glint of our eye conveys so many emotions and it is thus that we first begin our instant relationship.

When dating others we look for common understanding and acceptance. We do not seek partners as judges but as part of our own emotional support system. We like to admire and to be admired, however subtly. In another parlance, we would say that we appreciate and like being appreciated. Either way, we enjoy the company of another because we make each other feel good about themselves. It’s an unspoken understanding. Where relationships begin to crack later is where the understanding and support is replaced by criticism due to internal frustrations of lack of support. Initially when we date, this understanding and acceptance is displayed through many different methods from conversation and laughter in agreement on a topic, to agreement in places to visit on dates and food to eat, drinks to consume, movies to go see etc. It’s all part of agreeing based on a common understanding, finding the common ground between us.

We look for honesty and truth when dating. It can be like one long test, especially when we are not new to the dating game and have had our fingers burned previously. We know that it is within everyone to embellish the truth and unfortunately part of the dating ritual is to talk ourselves up, so sell ourselves as worthy. When this happens we must be careful not to go too far and add things that are untrue. Later our burgeoning relationship could fall apart through such white lies. And yet there are too few of us who stick 100% to the truth alone. There will come a point when we all add in some substance to our conversations to help our image to our date and to be honest this can all be part of the fun. But the basis of honesty has to be maintained when dating otherwise it is a pointless exercise. We are looking to share our quality time with someone so let’s be truthful from the outset.

There is an argument that when we are dating we are seeking someone like ourselves, a reflection of what we already feel about ourselves and the world around us. I think that is a mistaken view. I think what this theory really means is that we want to love and be loved and to allow this to happen we hope to find someone who not only matches some set of important criteria that we set ourselves but also someone who sees the world as we do. Not exactly perhaps, but close enough that we can grow further both as individuals and as a couple.